Everyone has experienced some form of disappointment throughout their lifetime. These circumstances are inevitable. For me, during these last few years, this is an episode that I’ve repeatedly lived with similar and different situations. I talked about by recent experience here and since then, I’ve continued to be confronted with situations that I would describe as unpleasant and disappointing. What I have come to learn is that although these experiences have been traumatic, chaotic, and overwhelming, sometimes these events are necessary for our own personal growth. For this week, I am going to talk about the 5 most important things I’ve learned when things went south, in the hopes that you resonate and take in something new to apply in your own life.
- Be mindful and aware of the present situation in front of you.
- If you’re like me, the last thing you want to do when experiencing a difficult situation is think about it some more. But this is so important. See the situation for what is it and try to trace down the root cause. For instance, you’ve put so much time and effort into a specific project and you don’t get the results or outcome you desired. In this particular situation, this is what happened: You put out your best work and you experienced rejection. To trace the root cause, specifically in this situation, can point to many reasons. The person or group didn’t resonate with your work or it can be case in where you subordinate to other’s expectations and values and projected this in the effort of dedicating time this specific project. And after doing this, try to identify the positive aspects in the situation and what you’ve learned about yourself. Gratitude is the key to acknowledging the situation.
2. Your journey is uniquely crafted for you to navigate through experiences that will promote your personal growth. Stop the vicious cycle of comparing your life to others.
- We are constantly surrounded by people. Whether it be in a specific type of environment or on social media. And I know its so easy to compare our shortcomings with others and feel inferior. What we have to understand is that our journey is individualized and tailored to respond to our needs, meaning that we bring certain situations as a process to grow and become the best version of ourselves. We feel as though we should’ve played it safe and pursued things that could’ve made our friends, family, or peers happy. This is your journey, your life, and your lessons. Take them in and make yourself better.
3. You are not alone.
- The process may feel like you are lonely, but that certainly isn’t the case. We have all gone through times of distress, anxiety, disappointment, and sadness, no matter what background we come from. That doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t be worrying about it or discredit what you are going through but rather inspire you to seek out resourceful tools to navigate through this difficult period in your life. If you don’t feel comfortable speaking about it with your friends, family, or even a health professional for whatever reason, they are limitless amounts of content on the web that can so helpful to you (use at your own discretion). I watch Youtube videos relating to the topic I need guidance for or read articles to gain a new perspective. You could even go to Facebook as they provide groups that there for the purpose of providing support for those who can’t turn to anyone when discussing these issues.
4. Allow yourself to breathe.
- Don’t beat yourself up about the “mistakes” you made. You coped the only way you could at the time. We are not perfect humans, we have flaws in the way we perceive and react in certain situations. Take a deep breath, acknowledge your wrongdoings, and move on. Dwelling on what could’ve been doesn’t magically erase the situation you are in right now.
5. Taking alternate paths doesn’t mean you’ve failed, it is merely a detour that will lead you to something greater and bring the same amount of fulfillment that you wanted initially.
- Just because your original plan didn’t work out as planned doesn’t mean you are failure. Certain things aren’t meant for you and that isn’t in a way that you are inadequate but rather it was compatible with your life plan. You have a specific purpose to fulfill in this life that brings value to the world. Trust the process and know something bigger than yourself is coming.
I hope you enjoyed this week’s blog post. Feel free to talk about your experiences with this topic and if you would like add additional tips and suggestions, you can do that as well! If you enjoy these types of posts, please subscribe as I will deliver new blog posts weekly. And if you have any specific topics you would like for me to talk about, don’t hesitate to contact me here. Have a great rest of the week.